Pecking Order

Pecking Order

 

 

There is always a pecking order in every group - your family, your friends, your coworkers. Your order is determined by so many things depending on what group you're in at the moment. Sometimes it's your birth order, sometimes it's your intelligence. Sometimes it's how 'awesome' you are or your title at work.

 

I'm fine with all of my labels, I've earned them all. My family, friends and coworkers treat me pretty much the same way and seemingly in accordance to my labels. The only one I take issue with is the 'single' one. (Here, single only means not married. ) It seems that unless you are married you don't know 'how life is'. Your opinion doesn't mean the same in social situations.

 

If I happen to say I'm pissed at the guy I'm dating some married woman will tell me I don't know angry until I wake up to the same man every day.

 

If I'm tired some mother will jump in and tell me I won't know tired until I have kids. This mother probably doesn't realize I spent my entire day with my niece and nephew going shopping for shoes for them, changing their diapers and clothing, wiping their noses that never seem to be empty of snot or running around the house with them keeping them out of the way for their parents.

 

I find this all very amusing and annoying. Amusing for the importance we all put in ourselves. Annoying..if you're still reading you get this.

 

 

It happens to all of us. When you're busy at work someone is always busier. When you're married you don't 'count' until you have kids. When you have a child you don't count until you have more than one.

 

Sometimes I want to retaliate...like when people talk about how annoying their mom is, I want to scream at them and say, "Well, you're lucky your mom is alive!!!"...or when they complain about their father I wanna scream how lucky they are that they're not in my boat. But I don't and I never would, because on some level I get it...plus I'm not a total asshole.